UNBECOMING

My best friend is from Mars, and I am from Venus. We compliment each other really well, but I have also threatened to take us to marital counseling. I am the jazz hands to her practicality. I am the feeler; she is the rational thinker. Rebecca is a doer and always knows how to fix everything. That is, until my mom died. She could not fix me by organizing meal deliveries or covering my classes. She could not draft an email or orchestrate a plan to put my broken pieces back to

They say that the relationship we have with ourselves sets the tone for every other relationship we have in our lives. Gulp. My inner critic is an as$%&@#. I don’t need friends like that in my life! Yet, it does make sense. As I adjust my goals and become more honest with myself, I have noticed that some genuine friendships have blossomed that speak to the newly emerging parts of me. I made one such friend just this week. Well, I sort of already knew her because I read her bo

Of this one thing I am quite certain. Every person needs a poet in her life, preferably two or three. Poets take time to love beauty. They see and feel everything. They notice the rustling in the trees, the dragonflies skimming the surface of the pond, and the sound of the rain dripping down the cold window pane. Their lives are full of sights and sounds. They remind us to stop and pay attention. O’Angelina is one such poet. She granted me permission to call her Angie, but sh

It has been said that you are the sum of the three people you spend the most time with in your life. If this is true, we have to carefully c

It is a painful process of unbecoming and learning everything we thought was a given - an unchanging truth - might not be set in stone. We d

“Being honest may not get you a lot of friends but it’ll always get you the right ones.” -John Lennon Last week, I got in a screaming match with my best friend. We were in my office discussing a book club and my recent obsession with self-help books. Obviously, this is a heated topic worthy of a knock down, drag out fight til the death. As the tension escalated, our coworkers started walking past my office door and peeking in to make sure we were not killing each other. I ha