UNBECOMING

This past Sunday I felt more like a daughter than a mother. And when I looked at my husband, he didn’t look like a father; he looked like a son. We were two...

My best friend is from Mars, and I am from Venus. We compliment each other really well, but I have also threatened to take us to marital counseling. I am the...

“You have always been an example of strength to your friends. I say all this to say I love you so much, and I am so proud of you.” -email from Mom (2008) I h...

“At some point you have to start becoming something. You can’t just unbecome into nothing.” One of my coworkers and friends is a sociology professor. He is a...

As 2017 comes to a close, I have spent hours in reflection. It has been a big year in many ways. I have laughed, cried, lost, hurt, loved and felt so, so muc...

I am a word person. How and why we use them matters to me. They weigh on my heart and mind. I can retrace my past through phases of attachment to certain wor...

I dreaded it for weeks. Calling it a “celebration of life” did not make it seem less like a funeral. I was battling the finality of Mom’s death and seeing he...

“These people who have lost someone look naked because they think themselves invisible.” ― Joan Didion, The Year of Magical Thinking I have read all the book...

“Where is your dad?” My kids were in a trance staring at the television. I just finished cleaning up after feeding everyone dinner. My mom was staying with u...

I try not to dwell on the missed opportunity and perhaps consider it to be one last lesson my mom taught me. “Seize the moment, Jaime. Don’t

“Whoever is present are the right people. Whenever it begins is the right time. Whatever happens is the only thing that could have happened. And when it's ov...