UNBECOMING

“Home, when it’s inside of us, allows us to sit still.” -Allison Moorer I used to want to own an airstream. Now I want to be the airstream. Heart is where the home is. Perhaps I have had this phrase turned around in my head all these years. It is not about going but welcoming and arriving. To be at home within myself and show up move-in ready to every day of my life. To know that I am enough and fully-equipped to handle whatever comes my way. I have long been enamored with wa

I have 401 unread text messages on my phone. I never notice that number. Occasionally, someone will glance at my phone and see it. They are flabbergasted. "How do you live that way?" I am not exactly sure how it happened. I think I read some one liners without opening them. Group texts have definitely contributed to the excess. Most of the messages are irrelevant and out of date at this point. It is a textual wasteland. I am old enough to remember when the family shared one r

My dad used to say, “If one person calls you a jackass you can ignore him. If three people call you a jackass, you should find a saddle.” After a member of my book club, my husband, a friend and a fellow writer all recently told me not to “take things personally,” I thought the time had come to saddle up. “Don't take it personally.” This statement flew at me from every direction. But why? What kind of self-absorbed person makes everything about herself? Conversations about bo

My blog was empty this week, but my heart was full to the brim. I am thankful and present recharging with friends and loved ones while soaking in some sun. There have been so many emotions to process. A few highlights: Mom turned 67 and became obsessed with the fidget cube my brother's family gave her My oldest graduated from elementary school My husband and I took an amazing stay-cation We are all reading great books The pool is open. Slide time! We traveled to Nashville to

Grounded. Centered. Balanced. I used to think these words were cliché and obnoxious. I was a busy, efficient person - a real go-getter. There was no time for new agey nonsense. Yet I have changed my tune over the past year. For thirty seven years, I was a manager, project director and task master in my life. These days, I am slowing down to enjoy being present. I am living, not just doing. I am learning that while presence is paramount and life changing, it is not easy to att